Thursday 27 February 2014

The Things and Thing mum are back on the blog

Hello all, long time no blog. Well, I'm easing myself back into it, calmly and at my own pace (or as calmly as I can with three crazy Things!).

2013 was a difficult year;

I parted friendship with the one person I had counted on as my best friend for a number of years, after she began emulating what felt like everything I did; although I know it wasn't, it did feel that way.

It began with her posting photos on her Facebook of items she made on her sewing machine; having her copy my designs and begin sewing items that were practical carbon copies of those I make, from my own patterns, was just the tip of the iceberg.

It now materialises that she had lied about being in hospital and lapped up my sympathies and concern when she really wasnt, lied she was ill when she was really undergoing cosmetic surgery and then the final straw, began calling her children by my children's monikers; Thing 1, Thing 2 and Thing 3, before announcing that it got her attention so she would carry on, even when, I tried to reasonably ask her not to. I thought she was my friend and I would have done anything for her, now I know she was just after the take and when I again pulled her up on something, the stream of text message abuse I received put the final nail in the coffin of that friendship.
She ignores the Things if she sees them and they give her a smile, or a small child 'hello', her husband is just the same. I find it sad and will not ignore her children nor ask the Things to ignore them, or her for that matter; they were a big part of the Things' lives for almost half a decade; I can't (and wouldn't wish to) change that fact.

For those who don't know,  my husband also has severe health issues which have been ongoing since  late 2011, and this can prove to be a challenge to family life some days.

We've lost our home and moved twice in the last thirteen months.

But I think after all, we will be much closer for it.

In all honesty I'm scared to  let myself be too open to anyone after the way that so called best friend turned out, for now; it feels lonely some days, but nothing that can't be remedied by a Thing-snuggle.

I'm trying hard to rebuild my business, keeping busy and being there for anyone who needs me to be, I'm keeping the Things happy and trying to make the most of spending time as a family when my husband is having a good day. Two friends, who are such good people have recently been  diagnosed with life altering health conditions and I want to be there if they need me to be, even as just a listening ear, if that's what they need.

On a positive note,  I have met (and some only through the magic of social media) some absolutely beautiful souls in the last year, and I know that when I'm ready to let barriers down I will realise I've met more; that I didn't realise how lucky I was to have them in my life.

For now though,  I'm going to blog again, on my terms and for me. I want to do this and I need to, to keep myself strong for the rest of my family.

Sorry for waffling... but that's me laid as bare as I'm going to get anytime soon.

I will be back soon with cheerier posts, letting you into the world of the Things, thank you for baring with me and much love to you all.

The Things Mum xxx